6 Secrets to Keep Him In Love With You Forever

1 CHOOSE WISELY. Who you choose ultimately determines if your relationship will succeed or fail. Choose a guy who’s compatible with you, who wants the same kind of relationship you want, and who’s positive he wants you! Not a wishy-washy guy who’s unclear about how he feels and what he wants. If he says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now or he acts like he’s super into you one day, then disappears for days or weeks at a time, then choosing him is not choosing wisely. 2 DON"T CHASE HIM OR FORCE THINGS. You can’t force love. You can’t make a man feel the way you want him to feel about you. If you have to spend a lot of time and energy getting him to step up or behave the way you want him to, it’s probably not the right relationship because love just doesn’t work that way. It should feel pretty natural and easy, not like work or like you have to “manage” everything to make the relationship flow 3.BE A WOMAN IN HICORNER. To be in his corner means that he feels safe with you. You see the full him—the man he is and the man he wants to be—and you accept and appreciate all of it. You fully support him, admire him, and believe in him. You’re always on his side: you’re his partner, not his adversary. He can tell you anything without fear of judgment or that you’ll use it against him. He may sometimes say things you don’t want to hear, and that’s okay, too. You’ll listen to him empathetically and you’ll realize that this is who he is, instead of seeing everything through the lens of you and what you need and want him to be. 4. LOVE HIM THE WAY HE WANTS TO BE LOVED. I’m sure you’ve heard of the five “love languages,” but if you haven’t, the idea is that we all experience love differently and because of that we give and receive love in different ways. People may experience love through physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, gift giving, or quality time. He may be showing you love in the way that he likes to feel loved, but it’s not striking a chord with you and you feel resentful toward him because you still don’t feel loved. You may be doing the same thing to him. It’s important to communicate about how each of you feels loved. One way to figure out how to make him feel loved is to look at at the ways he tries to show you love. Is he constantly buying you little gifts and tokens of his affection, but isn’t big on giving you compliments? It’s possible his love language is gift giving, not words of affirmation. MORE: How to Keep Him in Love If you experience love verbally, through compliments and hearing those three little words, you might be trying to show him you love him by telling him that you do, when giving him a special gift, no matter how small, is what will make him feel loved. It’s pretty easy to figure out his love language. Just pay attention to what lights him up. And pay attention to the things he does that make you feel the most loved if you don’t know what yours is. There are also plenty of quizzes online you can take to figure out what each of your love languages is, and this can be a fun way to transform your relationship. If he feels loved in the relationship, he’s going to remain in love with you. 5. HAVE MANY SOURCES OF HAPPINESS. To keep him in love with you, you need to keep being you. Have a fun and fulfilling life outside of the relationship—don’t let it be your only source of happiness. Maintain your friendships, keep up with your hobbies, have many sources of fulfillment. This keeps a relationship fresh and interesting because it keeps you interesting. How would you feel if he stopped doing the things he loved, spending time with his friends, and generally having a life outside of you? You’d probably feel suffocated and you might not even recognize the person you fell in love with. The best relationships are ones where two whole, happy people come together—not two broken people leaning on one another in order to heal themselves. You can’t extract happiness from a relationship, happiness is something you bring into the relationship. 6. BE YOUR BEST SELF. Make being your best self a habit. It can be easy when you’re in a relationship to become a little lazy, but if you’re not taking care of yourself, that’s a reflection on how much you value yourself, and if you don’t put a high value on yourself, why should he? Being your best self means your best self physically and emotionally. You want to look and feel your best. Men are visual, so if you want to keep him captivated and keep the lust alive, then be an object of lust! This will also make you feel good because what woman doesn’t love feeling sexy? Taking care of yourself physically also means committing to a healthy lifestyle. Work out, eat well, get enough sleep, just take overall good care of yourself. This will have benefits for both your physical appearance and your emotional well-being. Taking care of yourself emotionally means dealing with your issues. If you don’t, they’ll spill into the relationship because love dredges up all that is unloved within us.